Become One Flesh

I’m going to borrow some of today’s content from a devotional my wife and I recently read from Awesome Marriage.

“When you were first interested in your spouse, you probably wanted to spend time with them and learn all about them. As you got to know each other, your relationship grew, until the day you stood at the altar together and made your vows…our covenant “one flesh” relationship with our spouse, our pursuit of their heart continues for all the days of our lives.”

This is about remembering! I remember our early days in college – hanging out, shopping, going dancing, eating out – we wanted to spend all our time together, and the more time we spent together, the more we came to love each other! And we still love doing all those things together – and when we can go back to an OSU football game all those memories come back to us, and part of us feels like we are back there again!

“Many couples talk, kiss, hold hands, and go on dates far less often after getting married than while dating. But those good things that brought you together in the beginning are what will keep bringing you together for all the days to come.”

This is one area where we have not been shy! We hold hands as we walk through the mall, as we watch tv, as we worship at church. We kiss…often! Our kids hated it and loved it at the same time – we showed our kids how much we loved and enjoyed each other as they were growing up, and I believe they want the same love and intimacy in their marriages.

We have met some couples that do not kiss any more. They think it’s weird or disgusting. How else can we fully remember if we do not kiss? Remembering is more than just mental pictures. Kissing awakens all our senses, and we remember all the smells, tastes and touches that we also fell in love with when we were younger! It also has many health benefits! Look them up..

When you were dating you loved learning about your spouse! “Being a student of your spouse is a marriage-long project. How can you get to know your spouse better today?”

What were three things you used to enjoy when you and your spouse were first dating? Remember what you used to love – and try it again – you might find that you still enjoy it!

“Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine.” – Song of Songs 1:2 NLT